When Conversation Becomes Ceremony
🪔 What if conversation could be more than words—what if we make it a ceremony that brings us back to presence, reverence, and community?
What does a good conversation feel like in your body?
What kind of space does it open up inside of you?
If you’ve never named it, I hope this post helps you feel what you value in conversation—and root yourself in it. That way, your relationships can grow from mutual understanding and shared inspiration.
That way you can bring the warmth of the hearth into all the places you converse: your home, work, family, school, your community.
Because if you’re like me, you’re a seeker. You seek something beyond what this world seems to offer. You find yourself wanting more in conversations—about these times, about action, about stillness, about what lights our hearts on fire and how we can tend that fire together.
There’s a sense of powerlessness we all feel under the weight of these collapsing giants of systems. There’s a fragrance in the air, the smell of our neolithic brain circuitry — that tells us we’re gonna need each other. That, in fact, we always have.
Beyond certainty, beyond chaos, there’s a threshold.
It’s where everything we think we know rips open and something emergent happens.
It’s where conversation becomes ceremony.
🌲 The Gamme Talks
I’ve spent years exploring how we have good conversations within my practice as a certified life and leadership coach. It’s actually how I began.
My coaching vocation literally started when I was asked by a young Danish woman if I’d teach her and fellow students “how to have good conversations”. We were at a folk school in the Norwegian Arctic, on the doorways of Finland and Russia. What I thought would be a one-off talk turned into a series we called the Gamme Talks, named after the Indigenous earthen hut they took place in, nestled deep in the forest behind the school.
What made those gatherings different was that we treated the conversations within them as ceremony.
Here’s what I learned:
🔥 When conversation becomes ceremony, we bring:
Presence
A good conversation isn’t rushed.
It creates space where we listen to understand, not respond. Where we share from the heart, not the head. It allows for pauses and meandering. The talking thread is invited to loop, stretch, and return. This invites all participants to fully arrive.
Mutual Vulnerability
When we share where we’ve been struggling or needing care, we invite others to do the same.
And wonder—wonder is the magic ingredient that makes vulnerability feel safe enough to emerge.
Reverence
Ceremony begins when we revere the sacred already present in each moment.
Reverence calls us into sacred attention—and attention to what’s sacred.
I revere love, openness, curiosity, wonder, intrigue, honesty, presence, vulnerability…
What do you revere?
Curiosity
Did you know you can’t be judgmental and curious at the same time?
Curiosity is the antidote to the assumptions that separate us. Vulnerability creates the safety that curiosity needs to thrive.
When someone is curious about you, doesn’t it make you feel seen and valued?
Go exercise your natural curiousity, beloved. It makes everyone feel good.
Story
Storytelling engages both sides of our brain. Did you know?
It connects us, keeps us listening, invites us into shared memory and myth.
I’ll be teaching more on storytelling in future essays, drawing from my mentor at the American School of Storytelling in Minneapolis. But for now?
Lean into others’ storytelling. Steal like an artist.
What stories have transformed you? Start there.
This kind of conversational connection becomes ceremony that gives us the courage to move through the world’s thresholds—together, in community.
And as you do—notice what shifts in your body.
A softening of the shoulders, a deeper breath, a quiet “yes” rising from within.
That’s the ceremony beginning in you. Now keep the fire lit because liberation is a group project🔥
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Let these words compost into your own language of love and liberation. May they spark conversation, ceremony, and communion wherever they go.
With love from the wild thresholds,
Korbin
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Love this: You can’t be judgmental and curious at the same time.